New Parent Cafe Quote - June 2009

Karie-

Thank you so much for the info. Last night was great and we are looking forward to next week. I love your passion for this topic as I also share in your passion. Knowledge is Power. I am convinced that educating kids and parents regarding this topic can save thousands from going down a path that they will only later very much regret…And getting parents comfortable with talking to their kids about this REGULARLY. (Not just once) Too many parents wait until their kids are past the point of no return!!

Thanks again!

Mamie Krueger

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I am convinced that unless we persevere and continually promote the idea of abstinence education with our children they will fall to the world view. Janet_Arizona Parent

let the sparks fly!

We value our sexuality, cherish it, and SAVE it for the security of marriage where we share it.


What amazing truth!


Our sexuality is to be valued. It's to be cherished. Something precious in His sight. And most of all saved for the security of marrige. Marriage brings 'security' with the covenent and contract that two people sign. It states...for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. That's a committment for LIFE and then 'let the sparks fly'!!!


Sex is a gift. An amazing gift!


"You are worth waiting for" are 5 words that parents must communicate over and over again to their sons and daughters at an early age to combat the worlds lies of 'just do it'. We get bombarded everywhere with the idea that sex is a sport or game to keep tabs on. To just keep score. But it's NOT. It's a whole new mind set. A renewing of our mind to crasp regardless of media, billboards and music that portray a different message. The truth....sex is a gift.


Was it communicated to you? Did your parents let you know that sex is a gift? Most likely not.


Here was my big 'sex talk'. My aunt and mom were whispering in the near by room and I knew something was up. Then my Mom came in the kitchen where I was pretending I wasn't evesdropping. "Here make sure you take one of these everyday". She handed me birthcontrol pills. Can you believe it? Birthcontrol pills. So over the next 5 years and more I've been ruining not only my body but my 'heart' being torn a little piece at a time when I gave myself away emotionally and physically.


I wish I heard a different message. A message you as parents, moms, grandmoms, aunts, coaches, friends, sisters, can communicate to your loved ones.
Moms, this is the time to seize this generation and speak up about issues dear to your heart and the Lords.


Sexual integrity grips at His heart and should grip ours too. Once we get educated we get empowered. Let's allow this conversation to be so common....just like fried chicken and mashed potatoes.

Common in the American family and ah, so good!

Parent Cafe's

In today’s society, teens are faced with many choices. Choices that will affect the way they live their lives and the way they perceive themselves. Teen pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, emotional trauma, the loss of self-esteem and the loss of innocence are all consequences of a choice that can be avoided.

Our children need to know the truth and God’s provision concerning their sexuality.

The #1 person to speak this truth is the parent. But what I’ve discovered over the past 18 years when speaking on this topic of abstinence until marriage in public/private schools, camps, and conferences is that parents have many communication barriers and don’t feel equipped.

I truly believe that once educated a confidence to speak up in love will be developed and a relationship with their most prized gift of their life will be open on the topic of sex. Parents will find time, they’ll gather their friends, and it’ll become a conversation so freely open in their home for the sake of ‘purity’ and bringing glory to God.

That’s why Parent Café is a unique approach to train parents who will be intentional on the most talked about topic on a public or private school campus. Sex! It's being intentional to find opportunities to bring up ‘abstinence until marriage’ to their son and daughter so they’ll “get it” and then “live it out” right in front of them.


Parent Café's
Is hosted in a home by a mom and her friends....it's usually 4 or 5 session curriculum with some video clips from Parents Speak Up National Campaign designed specifically for parents to learn how to be intentional in speaking to their son or daughter about abstinence until marriage.

Each session is so informative and actually leaves the parent wanting to come back for more. Lots of props are used to ‘drive the point’ home and topics such as How Far Is Foo Far?, Exposing the Lie, Secondary Virginity, The 4 A’s: abortion, adoption, all-your-life and abstinence are clearly covered point by point so the parent will ‘speak up’ to their son/daughter when it hits their home either intentionally or not.

We're currently in the home of Mary King and several wonderful moms with sons and daugthters ranging from the age of 10 to 28 attend. We meet in the basement of a beautiful home in the argritopia area in Gilbert, Arizona. Yesterday was our first session and I can tell this is going to be amazing.

*Picture above are the Mom's from Janet Oitzman's home!! - This was our very 1st Parent Cafe which grew and grew and grew! One month we had 2 small groups attend and there was a total of 13 couples! (top) Debbie, Janet, Angel, (bottom) Susan & Lisa

Polar Express celebrating Kylie's 4th bday!

Make a Smilebox scrapbook

Real Love Conference

By 9th grade 1/3 of hs students have engaged in sexual activity and by 12th 2/3.
60% overall and 67% among younger adolescent, regret their 1st EXPERIENCE & wish they had waited longer.

Hard hitting facts yet TRUTH. And TRUTH it was that was heard and spoken today at the Parents Only breakout.

I encouraged and exhorted Parents today at Christ Lutheran Church "Real Love" Conference. They heard the WHY & HOW for sexual purity especially in this day and age when 'everywhere' we are bombarded with sexual explicit material. Everyday bombarded also with 'peer pressure' and 'conforming to a standard' that is not God's.

FACT: Parents are the ones who have the most influence on their children's decisions about sex.

Several parents shared how this has influenced them in how to communicate 'straight forward' and 'real'.

I love it when I prayed at the end a parent stood up and started praying for me!
Ah, that was awesome!

I'm telling ya... we connected. It was sweet! Brandon & I are booked for next year!

How to talk. Answers to tough questions. Skills your son or daughter needs. Healthy relationships. Pregnancy. Choices. Risky behaviors. God's best.

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www.desiringgod.com

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Choose Life

The LORD was truly glorified!!!

He made it come ALIVE like never before while I trained 12 lovely ladies on how to talk to the negative test client about abstinence until marriage! What was so cool was making it relevant to them to pass on to this generation. This is key in reaching the hearts and minds of the Millennial. Many of the ladies shared their story of ‘going too far’ and needing Christ’s forgiveness. One said at age 17, even a believer, she felt ‘marked’ and even 4 years later would never be able to marry a believer again. Satan’s bondage is strong. He tries to keep us there but I truly believe God has something greater in store for His very own. You see once we grasp onto what Christ did on the cross and His total forgiveness; freedom will reign. Ah, to uncover what we so easily hide.

“If we confess our sins He is faithful & just to forgive us & to cleanse us from all unrighteousness’ I John 1:9

One of the best illustrations taught was the idea that SEX IS A GIFT by holding up a beautifully wrapped gift explaining it represents their purity. You! This, then, evolved in the idea of the client actually knowing ‘who she is in Christ’. His promises. Hope. Restoration to the brokenhearted.

“He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners” Isaiah 61:1b

I pointed out how beautiful the gift is and what a wonderful wedding present it would be for their future husband. The emphasis was on re-wrapping the gift and holding hard to the reality of ‘it’s never too late to do what’s right’!

I ended the last 5 minutes with ‘My world got rocked 4 years ago’ by vividly portraying my daughters story, “Mom, I’m pregnant”. From prayer to humility and then the amazing fetal models which are real like even to touch revealing the truth of a baby in the womb at 7, 8 and even 9 weeks old. I walked the ladies through this troubled time in our lives from the announcement of a pregnancy to the appointment made at Planned Parenthood to end this life through abortion. It became so clear, God’s hand on each of us as He captured Kimmi and Kyle’s heart to choose life. I then held up an 11x14 black and white framed photo of Kylie Shea sitting in a rocking chair. Then with a big smile on my face declared, “Here’s their decision”. You could see the smiles of each lady and even hear a few gasps as they, too, gave God all the glory! The decision to abort was forever forgotten.

I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;
"that you may love the LORD your God, that you may obey His voice, and that you may cling to Him, for He is your life and the length of your days; and that you may dwell in the land which the LORD swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, to give them." Deuteronomy 30:19-20